Proverb-a-day for February 16, 2012

Eccl 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.

Eccl 9:9 See life with the wife whom thou hast loved, all the days of the life of thy vanity, that He hath given to thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity, for it [is] thy portion in life, even of thy labour that thou art labouring at under the sun. YLT

I am sorry I have missed a couple of days—I have been under the weather. This was supposed to be a Valentine’s Day message so pretend today is Tuesday. Note the way Young’s Literal Translation renders the first phrase: “See life with [your] wife.” That adds meaning to the KJV phrase, “Live joyfully.” Life to the fullest is God’s intent for the husband and wife relationship. Fully enjoy life with your partner. The relational aspect of marriage makes it joyful. My wife and I had a date night Tuesday. I think the sickness was starting to come on me by that time, and the service at the restaurant was exceptionally poor. We both commented that we may not be going back there any time soon. However, despite that, I fully enjoyed just talking with her. We each shared what was going on in our lives and the interaction was extremely satisfying. There were a couple of reasons our time together could have flopped, but the relationship overcame the obstacles and we had a famous time. Live joyfully with your spouse. Today’s daily Bible study covers another level of marital satisfaction. Be sure to check out the link below.


Help my marriage!

Today I am sharing someone else’s work on the subject of marriage. Family Life Today is a Christian ministry that provides helpful information for families. I received this in my email a few days ago and decided to share it with you. Click the title to be taken to their page: 4 Ideas to Improve Your Lovemaking.


Proverb-a-day for February 10, 2012

Eccl 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.

Eccl 9:9 Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun — all the days of futility. For that is your portion in this life and in your work at which you toil under the sun. AMP

In the last two messages, we have read of some delightful things Solomon pointed us to: (1) God has hope for you; and (2) live right and have fun. Today he adds another delightful word for those who are married or plan (or hope) to be one day: Live joyfully with your wife—be joyfully in love with her all the days of your life—this is a reward God gives in the middle of the busyness and emptiness of life. If you are married and are not enjoying marriage, do not accept that is just the way it has to be. Oh, I heard you just then—someone just said, “Well you don’t know my wife—or you just have no idea what kind of curmudgeon I have for a husband.” Allow me to put in a plug for the daily Bible study—our current series is called, “Help My Marriage!” You may find help there. Be resolved to work on the relationship so that you can enjoy the pleasures of marriage that God designed for that relationship. By the way, don’t forget Valentine’s Day folks in four days.


Help my marriage! (part 18)

Look at this verse again with marital disagreements in mind. And not how your spouse acts, but how you act:

Ephesians 4:31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

Do you blow your top, scream or cry when certain situations develop?  The “certain situation” is not really the problem.  The problem is your failure to respond like a Christian.  Can somebody say, “ouch!”

The Greek word translated “clamour” in the KJV comes from the Greek word which krow-gay, with a meaning like it sounds, a guttural scream like a crow. The word is sometimes used in a spiritual significance as when one screams an incantation to invoke demonic spirits, an outcry, to croak or cry with a loud and raucous voice.

Do not let loud screams become a part of the marital relationship. It does not belong. If that is just what comes out when you are under a squeeze, remember that squeezing a lemon doesn’t make it sour, it only brings out the sourness that lies within. That is a heart problem not a spouse problem.

Discuss differences without hollering.  Good solutions to problems are rarely discovered during super-charged emotional outbursts.

Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.


Proverb-a-day for February 9, 2012–Special Edition

SEE NOTE BELOW

Proverbs 1:7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

 Prov 1:7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge,
but fools despise wisdom and discipline. NIV

NOTE:

That was the verse I sent out on the first Proverb-a-day message on February 9, 2009 at 6:04 AM. Several of you were with us from the very beginning—thank you for hanging around.  I have been amazed at some of the responses I have received from many of you:

  • I just wanted to let you know how Proverb-a-day strengthens me and my walk with the Lord!…I’m sure it has blessed many more.
  • Some days, it is my life line.
  • Thanks, I sure needed that today!
  • You have no idea how this ministered to me this morning.

(You can read many other comments at http://moreword.com/?page_id=210)

On this three-year anniversary, I would like to ask that you consider inviting someone to join Proverb-a-day. If this has been a useful resource for you, perhaps it would also help a co-worker, a family member, a friend (or enemy), a fellow church member, someone from Bible study or Sunday school, someone you have prayed for to get closer to God, or someone going through a major life struggle. There may be someone at your work place who talks with you about God from time to time who would appreciate a daily, quick-read, source of inspiration.

If someone just came to mind, please forward one of the Proverb-a-day messages to them and invite them to consider subscribing. That may be a way for you to do a little missionary work for the Kingdom of God. This will be my only request like this a while. We will get back to the wisdom of Ecclesiastes next time. Instructions for subscribing to the daily email are found at the “About Proverbs” link above.


Proverb-a-day for February 9, 2012

Eccl 9:7-8
7 Go thy way, eat thy bread with joy, and drink thy wine with a merry heart; for God now accepteth thy works.
8 Let thy garments be always white; and let thy head lack no ointment.

Eccl 9:7-8
7 Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for it is now that God favors what you do. 8 Always be clothed in white, and always anoint your head with oil. NIV

Notice the starting word of this verse: Go! With the knowledge that you have a God-given hope, why are you still sitting there on the couch! Go! Concentrated in these two verses is a godly philosophy for living: If you walk in purity and are led by the Spirit, enjoy life to the fullest because God accepts your work. Throughout scripture, being clothed in white is a reference to putting on purity, and anointing on the head is a reference to being Spirit-filled and Spirit-led. Go, serve God and have fun at it! God’s plan for life is not a boring drudgery—it is the most satisfying path available to us.


Help my marriage! (part 17)

How to disagree – how to have a good fight

Differences in personality, tiredness, financial difficulty, rowdy kids, trouble at work, or any number of things, ultimately lead to conflict in marriage. You did not marry a perfect person and neither did your spouse, so conflict should be expected. As a result, confession and forgiveness for mistakes, sins, selfishness, etc. must be a regular part of marriage.

Ephesians 4:31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

This verse reminds us to never carry a grudge: “Let all bitterness … be put away.”   Forgiveness is a powerful force and greatly impacts marriage unity. In Matthew 6:14-15, Jesus said to be forgiven, you must forgive so be a ready forgiver.

Ditch competition and the notion that you are always right.  You may be surprised how many times your spouse is truly right and you are wrong.  Give up competing.

Conflict doesn’t exist only in bad marriages, it is also found in a good marriage. Conflict is part of the stuff of life. Differences between partners need not be fatal. No disagreement need be a threat to a marriage; it’s what a couple does about disagreements that determine the success or failure of a marriage.


Proverb-a-day for February 7, 2012

Eccl 9:4 For to him that is joined to all the living there is hope: for a living dog is better than a dead lion.

Eccl 9:4 [There is no exemption] but he who is joined to all the living has hope — for a living dog is better than a dead lion. AMP

We move on to the fourth certainty that Solomon identified in this first part of chapter nine. Let’s review: (1) God is sovereign; (2) death is certain; (3) insanity is in the heart; and today, (4) there is hope for the living. How refreshing that is! If you are alive, then you have hope. You can have hope because as Jesus said, “with God, all things are possible” (Matt 19:26), and “all things are possible to him that believeth” (Mark 9:23). There is a reason to hope because God can convert any hopeless circumstance—believe it. References to dogs in the scripture generally mean wild dogs, not the domesticated animals that live with many of us. They were filthy scavenger animals that roamed in packs devouring wastes and dead things. They may be nasty things but if they are alive, they are better off than a dead lion. You may be living a dog’s life, sick as a dog, dog-tired, and in the doghouse, but still there is hope! That is one of life’s certainties.


Help my marriage! (Part 16)

The last time we were discussing how differences attract. Let us look at how those differences become conflict. Marital conflicts often occur in the very area where the weaknesses of the two individuals meet.

I heard an illustration of how marital conflict may begin through this story. A turtle and rabbit meet. Each are attracted to the other because what each lacks, they admire in the other. Their differences draw them to investigate the other and eventually they fall in love.

In the beginning, they are delighted by one another and with their relationship.  The new pace fascinated the turtle. However, in time, he begins to wear out. Eventually the turtle begins to wonder about the wisdom of the relationship and asks, “I’m a turtle.  What am I doing hooked up with a rabbit?”

God knows what he’s doing when he matches two people.  Allow your differences to contribute to the wholeness of the marriage.  Differences can cause stress but they are needed to complete our own personality.

Regarding differences, we can learn to prefer one another.

Rom 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another ;

Your partner will have different likes but participate in each other’s likes occasionally.  We are creatures of habits and our likes and dislikes can change by throwing ourselves into something new for the sake of love.


Proverb-a-day for February 6, 2012

Eccl 9:3 This is an evil among all things that are done under the sun, that there is one event unto all: yea, also the heart of the sons of men is full of evil, and madness is in their heart while they live, and after that they go to the dead.

Eccl 9:3 This is an evil in all that is done under the sun, that there is one fate for all men. Furthermore, the hearts of the sons of men are full of evil and insanity is in their hearts throughout their lives. NASU

We have considered the first two certainties of life that Solomon revealed in Ecclesiastes chapter nine: (1) God is sovereign and (2) death is certain. The third certainty is also in verse three: (3) evil and insanity reside in the heart of man. The Hebrew word for evil use here often appears in a comparison with a good option. Here, the person makes the choice for evil even when considered alongside and regardless of the original good plan intended by God. The second word for madness/insanity refers to the irrational aspect of insanity, irrational thought processes, nonsensical behavior and mindset. Taken together that means that within man is found the option to disregard facts known to be right and to disregard rational thinking to choose a nonsensical behavior. What a mouthful of truth! Have you ever said or heard someone say: “I don’t care if that way is right, I’m going to do it this way anyway!” This insanity is the cause of adolescent misbehaviors, marital infidelity, and crime. As you read or hear today’s news, think about the certainty of this verse: “evil and insanity is in their hearts.”


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